ignorance and fear

Prayers for Bobby

"Homosexuality is a sin. Homosexuals are doomed to spend eternity in hell. If they wanted to change, they could be healed...If they would turn away from temptation, they could be normal...These are the things I said to my son Bobby when I found out he was gay. When he told me he was homosexual my world fell apart. I did everything I could to cure him of his sickness. Eight months ago my son jumped off a bridge and killed himself. I deeply regret my lack of knowledge about gay and lesbian people. I see now that everything I was taught and told was bigotry and de-humanizing slander...if I had just listened to my son when he poured his heart out to me I would not be standing here today filled with regret. I believe that God was pleased with Bobby's kind and loving spirit. In God's eyes kindness and love are what it's all about. I didn't know that each time I echoed eternal damnation for gay people, each time I referred to Bobby as sick and perverted and a danger to our children, his self esteem and sense of worth were being destroyed. And finally his spirit broke beyond repair. It was not God's will that Bobby...jumped directly into the path of an eighteen-wheel truck...Bobby's death was the direct result of his parent's ignorance and fear of the word gay...His hopes and dreams should not have been taken from him...There are children, like Bobby, sitting in your congregations...they will be listening as you echo "amen" and that will soon silence their prayers. Their prayers to God for understanding and acceptance and for your love but your hatred and fear and ignorance of the word gay, will silence those prayers. So, before you echo "amen" in your home and place of worship, think. Think and remember a child is listening."